Tantric massage is a joining of mind, body and spirit. Sharing the benefits of receiving as well as giving.Probably when you hear the words 'tantra' and 'massage' in the same sentence, images straight out of erotic films come to mind. However, it was this industry that popularised the idea of incorporating massage into your sex life.
However, contrary to what you may know about it, tantric massage is more than just a prelude to sex. As it happens, this practice, used with care, can connect your sexual energy with powerful awakening and healing.
Intrigued? Perfect. Here's what you should know about tantric massage and how to realise its full potential.
What does the word Tantra mean?
The word itself refers to 'loom' or 'weaving' in Sanskrit. The concept is more commonly referred to in relation to tantric sex.
During a therapy session, you are able to learn "how to be authentic in intimacy and say what you really want, and be vulnerable enough to connect on a deeper level." In short, it's a total mind, body, spirit connection.
And because your mind is your largest sexual organ, tantra also helps you to be mindful during your experiences. (The downside, unfortunately, is that if you have any psychological blockages, they are likely to show up in your sex life sooner or later).
What is a tantric massage?
While tantric massage is often confused with erotic/sensual, the use of the word 'tantra' instead of 'sexual' is intentional.
Sexual massage is on a physical level with the intention of bringing about sex. Tantric massage, on the other hand, is about slowing down, getting out of your head and feeling what your body wants.
Here are the key aspects of this practice:
Deep breathing: Whether you are receiving or giving a massage, it helps you connect with yourself on a more intimate level.
Additionally, deep breathing equals mindfulness, and this in turn helps you deal with stress, anxiety and negative emotions so you can fully experience and enjoy pleasure.
Delayed peaking : You may feel instantly aroused and even ready for release. But remember to slow down your potential and focus on deep breathing.
Tantric massage is about the ability to postpone the immediate gain in favour of a greater reward later.
Spreading energy: This massage helps to locate disconnected areas of your body and revitalise everything.
And when you feel this energy around your base chakra, it is important to focus on distributing it throughout your body.
The purpose of tantric massage
For many people, tantra massage is used as a form of foreplay. Indeed, it involves massaging one's erogenous zones and genitals. And it can lead to sex and orgasm.
However, this is not the main purpose of this massage. Instead, its main purpose is to give and receive pleasure. This is done by improving your libido, better known as sexual desire.
With this practice, your libido is influenced by three factors:
Biological. Sex hormones, such as testosterone and estrogen, work with neurotransmitters (such as dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine) to help regulate sexual desire.
Psychological. Stress increases cortisol levels, which can suppress your sex hormones and in turn lower sexual arousal.
Social. This includes whether you have an intimate connection with your partner, problems in your relationship, or if you are just too busy for sex.
When all three factors are in synergy, your health and sex life start to feel like that infamous Spice Girls anthem: spice up your life.
Getting to know Tantric massage
When it comes to tantric massage, it is a sacred ritual that allows you to get closer to your partner's body as well as your own. This is why these practices are sometimes called 'sacred place massages'.
And when it comes to sacred places on the body, there is the yoni (or vagina) and the lingam (or penis). Hence, we have yoni massage and lingam massage.
Yoni massage
This massage encourages you to slow down experiencing everything that is happening inside you and stimulate your inner sex goddess. The yoni sacred place massage has benefits that give you more energy and more pleasure than most women have ever experienced.
Its intention is to give and receive. So it allows you, as the owner of the yoni, to feel loved, cherished and honoured. And for this reason, yoni massage has helped some women heal their sexual shame and trauma.
Lingam massage
This massage is far from climaxing as quickly as possible. Instead, it focuses on stimulating the whole body to reduce feelings of arousal for a longer period of time.
As with yoni massage, it is about giving and receiving, as well as loving and worshipping. Remember, this is more of a ritual and approach to this as a sacred place massage for men.
For both sacred place massages, it is suggested to do them for at least 15-30 minutes. This allows you to focus on "nothing but allowing yourself to receive and feel more pleasure" than you ever have.
What are the benefits of Tantric massage?
Massages, in general, are known for their positive effects on your physical and mental health.
In fact, one study in the Journal of Athletic Training found that post-workout massage can reduce muscle soreness by around 30%. A separate study in the International Journal of Neuroscience found that massage can help lower cortisol levels and increase dopamine and serotonin levels.
Tantric massage has other benefits that no other massage will give you:
During Tantric massage, these benefits go to an even higher level:
1:Allows you to harness and awaken your sacred sexuality
Because sex is not just about having sex. Understanding that sexual energy is this powerful, creative force within us that manifests and creates all of our lives.
2: Gives you the opportunity for a deeper and more intimate connection with your partner
It's more than just a quick fix. One study found that partner massages can "improve [a couple's] physical and mental well-being while demonstrating tenderness for each other."
3: You are more aware
Body sensations, emotions, sexual pleasure.... you feel it all. Mindfulness and mindfulness give you insight into your beliefs - whether something is empowering you or holding you back.
And something extra: being sexually aware can lead to better self-esteem, relationships and sex life.
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